Wednesday, February 01, 2006

MY FOUR CHILDREN

I was married three months befor my nineteenth birthday. Yes it was too young.! My husband was seven years older and was a workaholic. He spent most of his time running a garage and repairing machinery etc. We had one son naturally when I was twenty. And dearly wanted to have more children, but it was not meant to be. No IVF in those days, though I underwent various treatments trying to find out why. To no avail, so we adopted a baby boy who was only 15 days old at the time. His birth mother could have changed her mind for the next 30 days, but fortunatly she did not. So we added Geoff to the family, three and a half years younger than John. Next we adopted Julie who was 5 weeks old, as the changing the mind bit was altered which was a good thing. She is the daughter who recently underwent a serious operation, but she came through it beautifully, thank goodness. When she and her husband had been married 6 months, he was baling hay in big rolls and saw some twine where it should not have been. The result was he lost his right arm from the elbow but he has an artificial arm with a claw. He works hard driving a truck he owns, carting gravel, sand or water. At present he is doing a lot of the housework and washing, as Julie is not allowed to do much at all. She lost 12 kilos weight in 2 weeks. Last, but not least came Kathryn, 20 months after Julie. She was 6 weeks old as she had been premature. She gave us an awful scare when she was about 20 months old. She got a viral pneumonia and had a raging temperature of 108-5. So she was confirmed at the hospital by a priest. Doctor did not give us much hope, but his partner doctor had been out with his girl later his wife. Saw our car at hospital at 2am, so came to help. He said “Why isn’t she in the humicrib?” first doctor pointed out that she would not fit, but he turned it on & said “I’ll fit her in it” Then measured Kathy and turned the humicrib off. Then come back with a cardboard box (a beer carton) with a hole he had cut to fit over her neck and put oxygen into the box and thus saved her life. I heard nurses talking, saying if she lives she will not be “normal”.. The temperature finally came down, with a fan on her in middle of winter. The second doctor slept in the room she was in, after sending us home. Now she has 5 children from age 7 to 18. Beautiful cook and makes clothes & also patchwork quilts. She and her husband have a dairy farm and milk about 200 cows. Another time I will talk about my grandchildren and two little great grandchildren. So that is my family. I have asked the last three if they wanted to try to contact their birth mothers. Geoff said “No” as he considered we were his real parents. Julie said that she had enough mothers & mother-in- law and was not interested. Kathy on the other hand would have liked to meet her and put her name down on a list they have, but the mother did not want to meet her. She does not know what she is missing. I said to Kathy recently to consider trying again, as it is nearly 20 years and maybe her situation has changed. Maybe she will find time to try again. She does not have a lot of spare time. She has taught all the kids to cook, sew and even the boys tried knitting. They all have horses and go to Pony Club etc. Kathy drives a large truck that carries aaaaabout 6 horses, and she takes the kids camping and fishing etc.

8 comments:

JunieRose2005 said...

Oh, what wonderful life stories you have!

I would love to see some pics of your family.

Sounds like you were a superb mother.

June

Joy Des Jardins said...

You sure had some trying times with those little ones Meryl. I'm so glad everything turned out so well...it makes each and every one of them that much more special. As for the grandchildren...I'm sure you have a LOT to say about
ALL of them. I only have one with another one coming in a couple of months...but, 12! Yikes, how exciting is that?

Joy Des Jardins said...

Ooops, I'm sorry I spelled your name wrong in my comment Merle. I don't know what I was thinking.

bubba said...

The yard stick of being a good parent I thought was. When your children have outdone yourself. I am proud to say both my kids have outdone me. Your family is wonderful.

Karen said...

I enjoyed reading about your family, your kids sound awesome, but how could they not be, with you as their mom :-)

Have a great day!!

kenju said...

Merle, you are such a saint to have adopted all those kids. As an adoptee myself, I always applaud those who want other people's children. It sounds as if you have raised a wonderful family. I met my birth mother when I was 57, and I see her from time to time, but I do not feel close to her and I have no blood siblings.

mreddie said...

Sounds like a great family Merle, I know you are proud - and rightly so. ec

Peter said...

Very nice post Merle, you can certainly be proud of your children, they do you proud.